Four years

Four years ago today I married the woman that is now my pillion. Four years that have been far from smooth. Four years that has demanded change from a person that resists change like a brick wall resists wind.

I'm not sure if you can tell, but I never thought I would end up married. I always thought the expense was silly for a simple piece of paper that says we are together. But regardless of my thoughts and beliefs here I am, four years later, bound by a piece of paper and all manner of things that I don't believe in.

Saying that things haven't been smooth is a bit of an understatement. It's been pretty damn rough and for the most part, I've been the root cause of it all. My nature is to be resistant, hard headed, and solitary. I am an only child and while not spoiled, I certainly was able to have my way and spent a lot of my time alone doing things that I wanted to do. I detest having people relying and being dependant on me and I hate being proded into making decisions.

Can you get a hint of what I'm like to live with?

Well, my fellow rider through this pot hole laden life, has held onto that pillion and weathered through it all. She has put up with every storm that I've thrown her way and even made a few of her own which have changed me and my views.

At one point we had almost taken separate roads, but the introduction of a rather sleek mistress changed that. Selene glided into the picture on a rather mundane trip to the local dealership. Oh, and get wasn't my idea. How many men can actually say their wife encouraged them, nigh pushed them into getting a motorcycle? If you can be counted among those, consider yourself I'm sure you do.

Selene was originally going to be my transportation as I went my separate way, but she seemed to steer me in another direction. She gave me the ability to disappear and dwell in my own little world. The chance to get away from everything and make it not exist if only for a few hours. She became my decompression tank and I left many a mile of stress behind while riding.

After that, things got better. A long distance ride that was supposed to be solo ended up being two up. She braved a stock seat and miserable weather on a ride to Ontario and back not being able to talk to anyone while moving and thoroughly enjoyed it. That ride put a link between us again and harkened back to the days when the only transportation we had was a motorcycle.

Mind you, things aren't perfect. We still have our problems and I still have my times, but I'm working on it. I'm happy to be where I am and I'm happy to be with her. Believe me, that's a long way from where I was not too long ago.

Looks like one loud, well designed machine did more than one over paid shrink could ever do.

Here's to us! And here is to the mistress that showed me the way.

Bride & Groom 02

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Beaker said...

Congratulations to both Joey and yourself - marriage can be wonderful but also very demanding. Well done for sticking at it even though it may have seemed easier to just walk away.

By the way, your blog is looking great - haven't visited for a while and I like the new look.

Keep the posts coming!

Vinod said...

Congratulation! Its amazing how the bike changed things for you and Joey- looks like you both will be just fine!

Lucky said...

Congrats to you and the missus, Giest. Glad to hear that, in this case, a mistress was actually a good thing!

I've been lucky. Going on ten years of marriage this November and things have been rather smooth throughout. Not that there haven't been a few bumps and breakdowns, but they've somehow faded from my memory.

...and we've got something in common: my wife was also the one who nudged me towards getting the bike. But in my case I think she was just sick and tired of hearing me talking about it all the time!


Biker Betty said...

Let me add my congratulations to you and Joey and many wishes for more happy years for you both.

Motorycles have added a new dimension to my hubby's and my adventures together and we love it!!

We have been busy hiking, camping and biking together this summer with our boys. Where has this summer gone? Yikes!!

Biker Betty :)

Giest said...

Aw, thanks for all the good wishes everyone! Sorry about the lack of posts, but (like betty) I've been enjoying the summer.